Dilemmas... How Do You Cope With Them?

I have a dilemma at the moment and over the weekend l just couldn’t decide what to do. I ended up getting upset and having a little cry but l feel that made me stronger.
l now know what l am going to do.

Have you ever been faced with a dilemma where you have to make a decision? You think and think until you feel your brain will burst! You weigh up the alternatives and almost talk yourself out of what needs to be done!

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After reading The Dice Man (so long ago that I have forgotten who wrote it) when I can't decide between two courses of action I just toss a coin.

Works well.

Failing that I consult my 8 Ball

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Bruce, I wish l had read this at the weekend, it would have saved me a lot stress!

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How do I cope with dilemmas?
I play them out in my head with different scenarios and see which ones feel right. If this doesn’t work I’ll pout, cry and ask my husband.
Kidding! Lol! If I really don’t know and it’s stressing me out too much, I hand it over to the universe and let it go knowing whatever happens is for the best.
Learning to ‘let go’ is difficult but such a relief when and if permitted.

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It certainly works for me if I can't decide then I let chance take control. No stress at all as long as you stick to the result (and I always do).

Since writing the above it occurred to me that The Dice Man was written by Rienhart perhaps Luke Reinhart? Could be wrong but very much a book of its time (late 60s early 70s?)

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I usually make a list of Pros and Cons, sleep on it, and usually I have an answer by morning. Failing which, like Bruce, I toss a coin. I always know the answer by the time the coin falls.

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Logic.

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It's an absolute devil when - despite all your best intentions - a dilemma suddenly catches you out of the blue like this.
They come from the most unexpected places which is, I suppose, what contributes towards making such things a dilemma.

Although I'm not prone to suffering dilemmas it seems that fortunately as I get older such things happen less and less frequently, and when they do good old-fashioned logic usually provides the answers.
Or it could be that as I age I don't let it bother me as much as I used to.

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If I have a dilemma I try to push my emotions to one side, because their influence can make you chose the wrong answer!

I tend to think how badly each decision would hurt the people involved and try to chose the one where the pain is likely to be the least.

If I still can't find the right answer, it is my dilemma so I chose to do what I think is best and tell others, that are involved, why I made that decision. Honesty is always the best policy!


If it is a decision where only I am involved like "Should I have a glass of water or wine?" I will have the glass of water whilst I think , then have a glass of wine to celebrate making the right decision!

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Bratti, That sounds like a good plan of action!