Re: It's Not Cool
Good and humorous insights all around! Thank you! :023
Here is what happened after the texts. It is so rare that I correct him, given his age, that I stewed enough to bring it up when he was at the house - more about the issue of my complaining than the texting.
He said that regretted writing "Cool" the second he hit the send button because...
With the break, several of the older residents were suddenly in a lot of trouble - about to face flooding with no where else to go knowing we would be facing days without repair on a holiday weekend. "Cool" came across as flippant and immature.
He didn't think "guys" was a problem, but I maintained that it was too familiar with this group of older ladies. "Everyone" or "You all" is much better and safer. My daughter, his twin, isn't bothered by "guys," but she said she would neeeeever (she stretched it out) refer to her elders as such. I asked them what they thought about calling females as "dude" as I have sometime heard in younger people. They didn't like that especially girls calling other girls dude, though I can see this evolving into the lexicon in the same way "guys" has. Is there really any difference?
My son has told me in the past that he was glad I corrected his grammar when he was growing up, so I asked him if whether or not it bothered him that I had complained about the text - given his age. He laughed and said that it was, "just a mom thing" and confirmed that as much as he didn't like the criticism (fair enough), he had really benefitted from the corrections over the years.
Besides, he recollected (and I had forgotten), we once agreed that if I corrected his grammar, he could nudge me to stand up straight when I was caught slumping - which I very much appreciate. We both agreed that attempts to otherwise "boss him around' was a bad idea and that on that charge, I was found (mostly, touchè
) not guilty.
By the way, I believe that only people who should ever correct grammar is one's mother or teacher, or colleague (if it is a matter of written, work-related communication).
Now, I have to stand up straight and get to work.