Re: How long does it take...
I think its easy to make friends when you are a child and often those friendships stay with you for most of your life, especialy if you grow up together and experience things together. As you get older I think it becomes more complicated - we get discerning and judge more readily. A deep friendship is harder to achieve from scratch when you are older, but I think you can often have plenty of acquaintances and casual friendships at varying levels. I suppose a certain level of friendship could be struck without meeting, especially if it goes on for a long time, but would that friendship be "real" or for what it gives you/what you want it to be.Re: How long does it take...
It does mean different things to different people Aerolor and that is why I posted the question. Just want to know how alike or different we all are from each other.Re: How long does it take...
I think I know what you mean Dragon - I'll talk to anyone who will answer back. A "liking" for someone can be almost an immediate reaction, an instinctive feeling, but I am not sure about "friendship" That is more a mutual thing which needs to be explored and allowed to grow. Some people who I have not instantly liked have turned out to become friends and some who I liked on initial contact have not developed into friends. Friendship can be offered, but, but it has also to be accepted and strengthened. I don't think it can survive if it is one-sided.Re: How long does it take...
You can have casual type friendships with people you get to know, but personally only a few would deepen to a strong real friend.Re: How long does it take...
I think you can tell rather quickly if you 'click' for one reason or another and then to be considered a 'friend'.Re: How long does it take...
It usually takes me a long time before I like to make friends with people.Re: How long does it take...
Taken from Antibrown's postRe: How long does it take...
There`s a fine line between acquaintance and friend, and is a transition which sometimes happens imperceptably over time, as knowledge and trust build. I`m not sure friendship can ever be complete without face to face contact, but empathy through conversation, through the written word, can sometimes come very close.
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