09-07-2017, 08:46 PM
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Advice of the heart needed
Rewind to early 1990s. I worked alongside a lady called Monica. We had an easy, sometimes mock-flirtatious, relationship. She was engaged to be married but we had the occasional (platonic) lunch or drink at the pub together and enjoyed each other's company.Soon afterwards she married her beloved and a few months later moved away. I got married soon afterwards as well. Monica and I lost touch.
Fast forward to last year. My wife and I had been separated for 6 months and I happened to bump into Monica (at a motorway service station of all places!). It transpired that she too was single again.
We arranged to meet up for old times sake and had seen each other several times but nothing intimate.
Last week though, we found ourselves holding hands.
She told me she wants to go on seeing me, wants to be with me but is nervous about having another relationship in case things go wrong. Actually this is just what I was thinking as well.
We both feel a bit emotionally fragile (but not broken hearted) from our respective failed marriages.
She said (half) jokingly that she wished we hadn't met until, say, next year. We are still going to see each other but are not sure what to do.
Advice welcome!
09-07-2017, 09:53 PM
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Re: Advice of the heart needed
In response to Mups:No, not the same and I didn't pursue.
You raise an interesting point because at that time I didn't think that anything was ever going to happen with Monica as she (Monica) had already said "just friends". Last week's happening has left me in a happy turmoil!
09-07-2017, 10:01 PM
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Re: Advice of the heart needed
Originally Posted by venator
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Last week's happening has left me in a happy turmoil!
Go with the flow, don't move in yet.
Just see how it is in three-six months then reassess
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