Re: Scrounging Relatives!
When we inherited we bought things we had always wanted caravan on the south downs being main one, and we had Elsie Labradors brain tumour done too but bulk of cash is in the bank still. One of my husbands brothers who inherited exactly the same amount came to us within a year to ask for a loan but having loaned and not got back previously we know what sort of loan he meant. We can't see at all what he's bought, a car that's about it, so he's drunk and gambled the lot.Re: Scrounging Relatives!
Re: Scrounging Relatives!
MKJ, I'm with you on that, problem is...what we feel and what we do are two different things. Of course, if she had alcohol or gambling problems it would have been a case of being cruel to be kind, and I could have made he who must obey see the sensible reason for refusal. But it's different when it is the youngest sister of the four, the other two live in London and she wouldn't dream of asking them anyway, and as he said when he had finished the phone conversation, "I couldn't say no, she wouldn't have a roof over her head as she can't afford the rent at the Barn".Re: Scrounging Relatives!
It might be useful to document the loan and both sign up to how it would be fixed.Re: Scrounging Relatives!
It`s all in the genes??. My father was a mean,nasty piece of shit. My brother had his pockets sown up. My elder nephew forgave his `best man`-for stealing all the cash we paid to him at his wedding.Re: Scrounging Relatives!
Tedc, Of course what you say is the correct way of doing things, but in reality,that just would not work! This family does not do such things as signing forms for a loan etc with other family. If it was a friend, yes, but family? no.
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