Our mothers were frugal to a fault. So why can't women today stop splurging?
Morning all, just finished downloading some classical music onto my MP3 player to listen to on my headphones when I have my once a week bubble bath on Saturday evening, (unfortunately can’t get the same relaxed feeling when having a shower every morning,!!)
I’m looking forward to that, accompanied by a glass of Rose and scented candles, Sigh!
Anyway, back to the present, I’ve just finished reading a very interesting article by Libby Purves in the Femail Magazine section of the Daily Mail this morning. I thought it may interest posters who would either agree with her or take issue with her thinking. I just thought I would share it with you. The article is far too long to print, even for me, so will just take extracts from it for you to peruse. So, get your cup of tea or coffee ready and digest this lot…………………
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Our mothers were frugal to a fault. So why can’t women today stop splurging on credit cards?
Debt is a burden, a worry, fuel for depression. Too many of us owe far too much and some will never be able to pay it back.
Mortgages we can live with, because we need homes and after a while, at least we own a bit of them. The real poison is “unsecured” owings, maxed-out credit cards, overdrafts, the never-never. Household debt is at record levels, payday lenders flourish and loan sharks prowl the land.
This week we learned that more than three million people have credit card debts they may never clear, and for five million of us the debts will take a decade to repay. The startling news is that women are far deeper in debt than men, 64% are women!
So why are modern women spending like it is going out of fashion? They are not, as a rule, feather-headed little sweeties, tripping around spending hubby’s money because they don’t understand big scary things like banks. Rather, there are more subtle pressures driving today’s women to spend more than they have, pressures anathema to the generations of women before.
For most of us, the image of a careful mother eking out the housekeeping, budgeting, putting aside a little nest-egg, hiding shillings in a teapot for the rent man or the “lecky” bill is a familiar one. In working-class families, my mother used to tell me with relish, they took the man’s pay packet off him on Friday and issued him with beer money.
So what happened to careful woman? How did we move from that idea of sensible female frugality to the embarrassment of us chucking it around like sailors on shore leave?
We’re not stupid. Most of us are out earning for most of our lives, we are the main and careful defenders of young children, why do we let this happen?
Again, this is not just a problem of poverty and abandonment, crippling utility bills and food bank queues. Credit-card juggling is a middle-class problem. Educated women get sucked into a vortex of buying, often by click, in a who-cares mood after a day in responsible jobs. And before you know it you owe thousands. The cards are handy but can be the gate to hell.
Let’s face it, consumer debt is, as often as not, as much about mood as about actual need.
Most advertising is psychologically aimed at women. 95 percent of holiday ads and most home improvement pitches are geared towards the female consumer. Even the motor trade these days urges us to be that glamorous woman chucking away her fur coats and keeping the car keys. Clothes are obviously pitched to our dreams of beauty and love, as are cosmetics, loony health fads and tiny magic pots of jollop promising to keep our skin dewy forever.
Now we don’t even have to go to the shops and carry the stuff home! We can sit on the sofa, tired, brainless, nursing a glass of wine and clicking away online to guarantee that a lovely parcel will arrive and feel like a present, or a prize.
It is wonderful how you can remember all 16 digits on your credit card while forgetting all sense and reason. It’s the luxuries, new clothes, holidays, tickets and trips. It needn’t be selfish either, we are urged to splash out on gorgeous children’s clothes, toys, games, outings, novelties for their rooms, edgy trainers which they plead will make them popular at school.
The spending itself becomes a rush of power and pleasure, mounting in some cases, to addiction. Many of us in difficult times have felt the edge of this. But, ugh, once the card bill comes in, or the bank loses patience, you just feel helpless. Certainly if you were brought up, as I was, by frugal parents who thought debt was shameful, but again, there’s a cruel modern twist which neutralises that.
The worst side-effect of university tuition fees and student loans has been the normalisation of debt! For women in particular, this was a new experience. If you are taking on a massive debt to pay for your education, on the spurious promise that graduates always earn heaps of money later, it makes you feel more careless about other debts. After all, while owing £44,000 at the tender age of 21, it may make some anxious to repay, but it is more likely to make you think: “Oh, to hell with it. I worked hard, I got a 2:1, I deserve a holiday, a new holiday wardrobe, - and highlights!. And to hell with taking sandwiches to work, I’m going to buy some.
Compared with the £44,000 they owe, their feel-good spending is peanuts. But if, for instance, you owe £3,000 on a credit card and can make only the minimum repayment each month, it could take you 27 years to pay it back.
Which means that you will have paid double the original loan, made bankers richer and crippled yourself financially. Debt, never forget, is a mug’s game.
Ladies, it is time for our inner wartime housewives to wake up, remember our dignity, and draw in our horns.
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Certainly thought-provoking! Now I know that most of us on OFF are of a generation that grew up with frugal parents, and there cannot be many who throughout the years to present day, didn’t accumulate debt in some form or another and learned the hard and costly way how it blighted their lives. But, as the saying goes, with age comes wisdom. .I know it did with me! I now have one credit card, which I need, but would never dream of using if I could not afford to pay it off interest free at the end of every month. No flippin bank is going to take extra money off me ever again if I can help it. And should the time ever come when we could not afford to do so, then the cards we have will be cut in two - pronto!.
What do you think about debt? Do you agree with Libby Purves and her view of today’s women getting into debt needlessly? Or do you believe it is just misfortune that we live in such an easy, I want, I will have and worry about it later expensive society that our parents and grandparents never had to experience? After all, they didn’t need to “keep up with the Jones’s”, The Jones’s never had much to start with!