Marry or Not?

Would /Does it bother you if your children/ Gr.Children lived with someone instead of getting married ? My friend is quite upset that her youngest Gr daughter is not married but living with someone ,even though she is in her 30's and they have been together for over 10 years.I have seen all my nephews and nieces married divorced ,and in some cases marry again, so I cant see what difference it makes.What are your views ?

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I'm in two minds.......if it were just my daughter or son living with their chosen partner then no it wouldn't bother me.

if they had kids i'd prefer them to be married......i'd prefer them to share the same surname as the children.

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Marriage is pointless. It's a bit of paper nothing more.
If you need a bit of paper to prove your love and dedication to your partner then something is wrong. People should stay together only if they want to be together.

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I do not know the legal side though, especially if the couple decide to start a family and are still not married.
What happens if they split up and they have children and financial commitments together?

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No it wouldn't bother me at all.

But I think the same as Tpin, if they wanted children, then I think they should be married.

I also think there is something to be said for being married if they spit up or one of them dies.
Less hassle sorting stuff out.

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That's what I wondered Pesta. Especially if one partner's family detested the surviving partner. Could be tricky.

(Nice to see you again).

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Both my daughter and son lived with their partners before getting married but when they wanted to start a family, they started planning their weddings. It wouldn't have bothered me but it, obviously, bothered them.
As said above I suppose it makes things simpler all round.

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Yes.... that's another reason to be married. Family hassles.

Thanks for the welcome back too petal

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I lived with my husband to be for 4 years before we got married, my son likewise with his wife to be.

I don't see the point in marriage myself, it is pretty meaningless for many who make vows then go on to have affairs or get divorced.

My word is my word, I didn't need a bit of paper and vows to ensure I stayed faithful and I only married to please others.

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My Daughter lives with her Partner, has done for 15 years now & they've never married, it doesn't bother me at all.