21-05-2016, 09:00 PM
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Who to believe
I just dont know what to think, My only SIL in her 80s , broke her hip earlier this year, now repaired, now says she cannot walk or do anything. she has a carer once a day but says she doesnt want any extra care, she doesnt want to go to day centers ,says she cant walk so cant go. Her family are getting fed up,say she can walk but isnt trying and the son living at home is under strain trying to care for her as he works full time [ the others live away but come back at times to clean the house and do what they can] . I am unable to see her myself ,but speak to her and the family independantly on the phone.There is now measures for her to go to respite care for a month to give them a break,she doesnt want to goMy dilemma is Who to believe ,I am fond of all of them ,who's right /wrong
21-05-2016, 09:22 PM
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Re: Who to believe
Maybe with your SIL's permission talk to her GP about some physiotherapy to get her started .
21-05-2016, 10:06 PM
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Re: Who to believe
Originally Posted by Meg
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I would say no right or wrong and that your SIL has lost her confidence and needs gentle encouragement. Maybe with your SIL's permission talk to her GP about some physiotherapy to get her started .
Yup. I'd agree with that Meg.
Sounds like the old gal might have lost her nerve, Deylon.
On the other hand, if she really is in pain, then it needs sorting out.
It could also be that she is depressed and just giving up, but if so, then that needs dealing with too.
What does the carer say in her reports?
What does her GP say about the pain and her lack of mobility?
22-05-2016, 10:27 AM
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A hip break is significant and a woman in her eighties isn't just going to start be mobile right off the bat just because it's healed.Seems to me that patience is in short supply. Mobility has to be regained and it will be a slow process.
Has she got a zimmer frame? Was there any sort of physio in place?
22-05-2016, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted by deylon
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I just dont know what to think, My only SIL in her 80s , broke her hip earlier this year, now repaired, now says she cannot walk or do anything. she has a carer once a day but says she doesnt want any extra care, she doesnt want to go to day centers ,says she cant walk so cant go. Her family are getting fed up,say she can walk but isnt trying and the son living at home is under strain trying to care for her as he works full time [ the others live away but come back at times to clean the house and do what they can] . I am unable to see her myself ,but speak to her and the family independantly on the phone.There is now measures for her to go to respite care for a month to give them a break,she doesnt want to go My dilemma is Who to believe ,I am fond of all of them ,who's right /wrong
22-05-2016, 01:01 PM
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A pack of wild horses wouldn't get my wife or I into respite, ruddy horrible places.I can understand your SIL's feeling, and as someone as said someone of that age doesn't get over a fractured hip that easy, she needs careful caring people who know about physiotherapy to help her.
22-05-2016, 01:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Wrinkly
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A pack of wild horses wouldn't get my wife or I into respite, ruddy horrible places.I can understand your SIL's feeling, and as someone as said someone of that age doesn't get over a fractured hip that easy, she needs careful caring people who know about physiotherapy to help her.
22-05-2016, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by tarantula
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But what about the carers needing a break?
Would it be cheaper than respite care? - do you have to pay for respite care?
I don't really know about these things but the carers do need a break and they should get one one way or another!
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