behind closed doors
Some of you may have seen this programme last night , an in depth view of domestic abuse , it was difficult to watch , the three women deeply loving men who had brutally controlled and beaten them .
It's a difficult one to understand why women (and men) stay and love their abuser , forgive over and over again , and still see the person they once fell in love with and are devastated when the relationship eventually ends .
My belief is that the abused has lost all self esteem , believes they are not worthy of anything or anyone , have become so Co dependent on another they feel they can not live without the abuser .
Most of us would not allow or put up with abuse and can't see why these people do , yet somewhere deep inside of me , the older wiser me does have a knowing . Fear of being alone , fear of life and not knowing how to cope .
Only when the abused has found their strength , found themself's , can they move on , it can take years or even a lifetime , and sometimes they never do .
I choose to live alone , I'd rather live on my own than be in an abusive relationship