a back handed treat !
A friend who I'd not seen for a while invited me over for the day to her new home. After coffee she said , " I thought it would be nice to go out for lunch" . She'd been showing me around her beautiful new home and it was beautiful , I was pleased for her .
We went to a lovely garden centre , had a nice lunch and glass of wine , then she got up and said "let's go and pay the bill " , getting to the till I was surprised to find she was expecting me to pay for the meals. I had just enough to pay for mine , then she paid for hers by card.
It was obvious that she thought I'd pay , she had taken no money and reluctantly searched deep in her handbag for her card. In the past I'd often paid ,but I don't have the money that she has , as I'm on state pension , she having just had a large inheritance and husband who earns a good salary.
I honestly thought she was treating me to lunch that day , I'd been invited to her home for the day .
I shall be more aware if I visit her again. If I invite someone to my home then decide to eat out my natural thing is to treat that friend to a meal , not to expect them to treat me.