21-05-2017, 07:41 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by Muddy
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Are these you real doubts or are you a little appprehensive about talking on a forty year old ?
No, I'm not apprehensive and not looking for an excuse to give myself not to go ahead. These are real doubts.
21-05-2017, 07:49 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by MKJ
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I do this a lot - look to what could be. Trouble is you can lose out on living in the here and now. At a later date you might regret what you could have had 
. All very confusing.Best thing I would advise is if you can't work it out between you both and come to an agreement over it (if she does indeed like you
) - the age gap and what the future could hold that is - probably better leaving things alone if you can't handle the worry.But then again there is always this advice from Master Oogway (wise turtle of Kung Fu Panda fame):
"You are too concerned about was was and what will be. There is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the 'present'."
In other words don't ask me for advice
.You are on your own ...
Best of luck
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21-05-2017, 07:57 PM
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Re: Age gap
Ok,..I had a relationship with an older Man when I was 40 He was 62 and very handsome, We were both widowed...He began to resent Me seeing Friends of My own age,and just wanted Me to be with Him and His Friends who were all so much older than Me and bored Me to death....I of course resented this too and ended it after 2 years...,He soon met a lovely Women His own age and They lived happily together until His death....so..think carefully about it..and good luck whatever You decide.
21-05-2017, 08:08 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by May
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Ok,..I had a relationship with an older Man when I was 40 He was 62 and very handsome, We were both widowed...He began to resent Me seeing Friends of My own age,and just wanted Me to be with Him and His Friends who were all so much older than Me and bored Me to death....I of course resented this too and ended it after 2 years...,He soon met a lovely Women His own age and They lived happily together until His death....so..think carefully about it..and good luck whatever You decide.
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21-05-2017, 08:18 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by Meg
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Hi Venator 
I would say age is irrelevant. You are both consenting adults, if you feel there is 'something' between you go for it , life is to short and full of uncertainties for pondering 'what ifs'.
21-05-2017, 08:25 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by May
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Ok,..I had a relationship with an older Man when I was 40 He was 62 and very handsome, We were both widowed...He began to resent Me seeing Friends of My own age,and just wanted Me to be with Him and His Friends who were all so much older than Me and bored Me to death....I of course resented this too and ended it after 2 years...,He soon met a lovely Women His own age and They lived happily together until His death....so..think carefully about it..and good luck whatever You decide.
Thank you May. You've raised a tangential point. I wasn't considering whether things would work in the first place but you've set me thinking. I'd never resent a partner seeing their friends but most of my friends are in their 50s or 60s.
I guess it's about how one gets on with ones partner's peers. It's not crossing that particular bridge but a later one that I'm worried about.
21-05-2017, 08:43 PM
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Re: Age gap
Originally Posted by susan m
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Just ask her , why not , she can only say no , don't be offended if she does . Live one day at a time .
I agree susan.
Venator, you are thinking too long term.
You are wondering how she would feel about looking after you in your dotage (if you get that far
), and you don't even know if she wants a date yet!
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