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Thanks Pauline, yes that was a problem to take into serious account. It's taken some while but the stress is now I reckon under control. That has taken over 18 months but now I reckon it can all be dealt with, leaving all the stress out of it. I just wish more details could be given, I could get it off my mind, 'a trouble shared' and all that. However, I doubt anybody would believe it all, neither did I, that I can assure you of!

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I'll believe it after what I and others went through.

One of my other colleagues was bullied by the same (insert suitable word here). Unfortunately, she also developed a cancer behind her eye which required her to take time off work. Just to drum the point home,"he" instigated disciplinary procedures against her based on the amount of time she was taking off. Although this was in clear breach of many employment regs, my friend was too tired and weak to go through the rigmarole of it all and just handed in her notice.

This is the sort of fella I was dealing with.

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Hope it gets resolved soon,Baz.

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There are a lot of 'strange' people everywhere I reckon DM, it's just that until something happens they appear the same as most other reasonable people. It's when there is a problem and the **** hits the fan, that they show their real colours and we see them for the 'nasties' that they really are and to all intents, probably always have been!

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I know what you mean...I was lucky I got out of a toxic friendship...if it ever was a friendship...I often wonder, I could say a lot more, but best not, I don’t want to turn bitter..

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Me too Pauline, the problem is that these things do not get resolved overnight, it takes ages and ages unfortunately.

There's friendship and friendship, unfortunately. Now I trust very few people, that is what these types can do. Bitterness is an emotion and therefore under your control. Stating your point of view and what you think of someone doesn't necessarily mean being bitter, it's just stating the truth. I do understand though that you wouldn't want it to turn into some kind of vengeful rant. That just reflects badly on you and as the 'victim' you don't want to reinforce what's happened and give that person even more 'power' over you, that is not good.

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Good advice and insight there,Baz..many thanks.

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Oh yes and a brilliant compulsive liar at that.

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i Have been duped by quite a few liars in my time.

When young I didn’t have the intelligence to understand, I just went along with it and believed them.

What about all these products..oh madam, it does this and it does that, salesman are good liars, how many people ( educated) have also been conned out of their life savings?

I’ve got to a stage in life, where I check everything out,..also listen word for word..

I often have to ask people to slow down ,because they are talking far to quickly, how can anyone contain all of that info...you listen to see how quickly some people speak.

This world is very fast paced..many mouths are also.

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I always wonder just how much effort it must take to continually lie about things unimportant and to keep it up.