Re: Coping with grief.
Takes a while to move your thinking, from the sense of total loss, to the many real benefits you did get to enjoy in life.
Anita was given back 30, or so, years of life by a gift of a triple heart bypass.
During those years, she loved the extra time with her family, learned to play golf, made lots of new friends in this area.
I was given back some years, which I might not have otherwise had, by a pacemaker implant.
Right up to the last day, things were good.
We enjoyed our last evening meal, with one of our daughters, on our patio on a Bank Holiday Sunday, and sadly, the next morning, i awoke to find that Anita had passed away, whilst sleeping, overnight.
Years of thinking, and over thinking, but I am now settled on the concept that she left without pain, without the trauma of a long illness, and we can all cope with that thinking.
The way through Grief, seems to be built on family & friends.
And all those positive memories.