10-05-2012, 12:24 PM
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What really brought this to my mind was talking to the wife about old times and one time in particular, remembered by my wife not me (Don't women ever forget?). It was about 25 years ago and we were at the annual dinner dance of the local residence association. I would like to point out at this stage that I have never been unfaithful to my wife in my life, I'm not that kind of a man, one woman is enough to contend with in ones lifetime as far asI'm concerned. I'd had a few jars and was paying more attention to the busty barmaid then I should be, but I was only trying to be friendly as it was her first week in the job, make her feel at home in my local if you like. When I eventually sat down beside the wife and her sisters three, she threw me a look that would turn milk sour, this went on for the rest of the night, she even started dancing with every Tom, dick, and Harry, (Harry being the milkman, by the way.) but I didn't notice, she loved dancing and she was enjoying herself as far as I was concerned and that was fine by me.
Come bedtime and she was already installed by the time I got in, she had her long smooth back turned to me with the invisible sign, "Don't even think about it." written on it.
She cooled off later the next day realising how foolish she'd been.
10-05-2012, 06:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Aerolor
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I must admit I felt strong jealousy because of my husband's first wife. When I met him they were already separated, but even though they had parted I felt her presence in our relationship. I felt a need to remove every trace of her in his life and I harboured dark thoughts of posting mice through her letterbox at one point (absolutely true 
). I suppose the feelings were an indication of my not feeling secure and safe. She had had him first and he had loved her first when he was younger. In some undefined way I thought she could intrude on our lives. Even though she didn't know who I was and passed me in the town without recognition, I knew who she was and whenever I saw her I was jealous. Looking back it was irrational, but once I had been with him longer than she had I realised that she didn't have any affect on us and I got over it.
.I didn't feel jealous knowing she lived in a 5 bedroom house with a gardener while we struggled to afford a one bedroom flat .
He left her 7 years before he met me and I admired his loyalty to his children. I never felt jealious because I had the ultimate prize
I got the man and he had chosen me a mouse like creature over her a model 
12-05-2012, 07:41 AM
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Surely if you feel jealousy in a marriage then you do not fully trust your OH and is that not what good marriages built on?Trust,I have never had any reason to be jealous of she who must be obeyed and I have never given her cause to be.
If, she who must be obeyed, was the last female on earth I would trust her implicitly.
12-05-2012, 08:50 AM
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And I trust my OH implicitly AB, in all things not just fidelity. We have spent the last 45 years together. Both of us went into our relationship with "baggage" as we had both come out of disasterous marriages. I married very young the first time, against all advice. My first husband is now on his 4th marriage (and the only thing I can say is that at least he marries them). I think past failure makes a lot of people (including me) very careful in relationships, although not all of us are the same.16-05-2012, 10:45 AM
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When I grew up it was at a time when money,wages ,shopping lists were stable and everyone was in the same boat, so no envy for anyone. material possessions have never made me jealous of another, I can admire them but never felt jealous of them. Parents washed and fed usm clean home, but no affection or closeness so I have never felt any emotions at all. I feel I have lost a lot in life because of it. For instance any man I went out with who walked off after a quarrel would have to walk back I would never go after him. I don't recall feeling love, why so many men wanted me I have no ides, unless it was to try and penetrate this ice cold exterior, never happened.I therefore feel cheated that I never loved another, feel lost out when I read of others happiness with a partner. Sad really.16-05-2012, 11:11 AM
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yours is a very sad story skinnyliz ,never to have felt the emotions of being madly in love with someone , very unusual not to at least have had one love affair at least , when my first wife left me i was terribly jealous of her new man , i could have harmed the guy but im glad now i never went near him but the emotion and jealousy were very strong inside me for a long time , i have remarried now and im happy with her but i still sometimes think about my first wife and her guy , i am still jealous of him being with her , this is after thirty years ,17-05-2012, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by ragman
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yours is a very sad story skinnyliz ,never to have felt the emotions of being madly in love with someone , very unusual not to at least have had one love affair at least , when my first wife left me i was terribly jealous of her new man , i could have harmed the guy but im glad now i never went near him but the emotion and jealousy were very strong inside me for a long time , i have remarried now and im happy with her but i still sometimes think about my first wife and her guy , i am still jealous of him being with her , this is after thirty years ,
17-05-2012, 07:04 PM
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i still feel the same about the guy as i did thirty years ago , it spoils family gatherings such as weddings as i will not be in the same room as this guy ,crazy i know but i cant forgive him for stealing my true love , they say that time heals but im my case it has not altered my mind about him ,
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