25-03-2018, 03:04 PM
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Re: Is there a time to let things go?
Originally Posted by ruthio
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Lovely story Shroppy...Isn't it you with all those sons?
And all those brothers?
Your family is all men!
My brothers and I have 16 sons and 5 daughters between us.
My gorillas have 12 daughters and 3 sons between them.
My Nephews and Nieces have gone on to have
16 daughters and 9 sons.
and I now have a great great Niece too. The very first!
And they all, every one of them, live locally.
Needless to say, at Christmas, its ONE gift per family and once the children have left school, Birthday card only, no more birthday gift. LOL. Everyone would be broke otherwise.
I often think back to my Auntie Kathleen, my favourite Auntie. Irish of course. She had 18 children!!! 10 boys and 8 girls. (2 sadly stillborn) 3 sets of twins in amongst them. She was an inspiration to me. A harder working mum and dad you would find it difficult to find. They certainly found their own sense of fun and entertainment. Phew! lol:
25-03-2018, 05:23 PM
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Apologies MC for going off topic. Just replying to a question.All the time during the spring and summer Ruthio, usually Barbecues or Garden parties, but mostly here or brothers homes as most of "the kids" don't live in properties large enough to accommodate so many. (houses seem to be getting smaller all the time). For evening events it's usually the hire of the local Cricket Club.
Everyone chips in with the cost though so it's no problem. Always plenty to go around with all the women contributing the food. Fun times.
25-03-2018, 06:55 PM
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Re: Is there a time to let things go?
Originally Posted by Zuleika
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Personally I would never go back to renewing friendships I’d let go of because of things that upset me and believe me I know what you’re talking about .Like you I’ve moved on and ignored them and when I’ve happened to come across them although I’ve thought about the friendship we had I think too much time has passed to renew it .
So I have to say I think your suggestion that it might be euphoria causing you to wonder about this is just that.
Have these people ever approached you for instance with a suggestion you make up ?
Nice to gaze at the world with rose tinted glasses, not always practical.
Just saying.
Smile
25-03-2018, 10:41 PM
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Re: Is there a time to let things go?
Originally Posted by Mondays child
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I was ill recently and without me knowing my son contacted my sister, who I haven't seen or spoken to in eleven years.We used to get on so well together previously because we both had the same sense of humour and used to laugh together so much.
An old girlfriend I haven't seen or spoken to for over three years also rang me to have a chat while I was still in hospital.
My sister hasn't gone as far as speaking to me yet and the conversation with the old girlfriend was pleasant with the occasional giggle and laugh. There is no way I would want to go any further than just being friendly with her but it was nice to chat again.
While I've been ill I've had some long conversations with my son and his partner and my daughter and ex wife plus some of the nurses spent time chatting to me during the night shifts when it was quiet on the ward.
I have to admit my illness has caused me the think how short life can be and has left me wondering whether its time to let go of old bad feelings and to move on.
I'm never nasty to people but tend to ignore them and just move on and leave them behind if they upset me.
However as much as I feel that is their loss I also feel it is just as much my loss too, as I have lost people I counted as "friends" and enjoyed talking to, like when I left a forum a long while back.
Do you think this is the post illness euphoria about still being alive and I'm just feeling that the world is a nicer place to be in especially when you have friends to share it with, so make amends and get closer to the people I like to talk to and be around, or am I on a rocky path renewing old friendships that could get thrown back in my face.
At least make your peace with your sister before it's too late .
In a blink of an eye everything can change .
You have nothing to lose and possibly much to gain.
Good luck and get well soon.
27-03-2018, 04:06 PM
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Hi, MC. I wondered where you’d got to!! I am glad you are feeling much better after your recent illness.You sound very upbeat at the moment and that’s great!
I always think people have two choices, if they want to keep friends, then that’s great.
If they don’t, that’s up to them. Let them get on with it! I wouldn’t go begging them!
27-03-2018, 05:52 PM
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Re: Is there a time to let things go?
Originally Posted by Rhian
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Whether it is the post illness euphoria or not MC it is ALWAYS worth the chance of making amends with people whose company you enjoy.Exactly as you say...life is to short. Live it to the max
Good luck with it all
And keep us posted
Ditto
27-03-2018, 09:59 PM
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Re: Is there a time to let things go?
Originally Posted by susiejaeger
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My Sister and I had a big blow out, she was really nasty towards me and has always been the bossy one all of my life, telling me how to run my life, we fell out just before we put my Mum into a Home and she sent me some really disgusting emails real nasty ones, so we haven't spoken since. I have no regrets at all, I do not wish to speak to my Sister, I always send her a Birthday and Christmas card but thats all.
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