Stubborn father in law.

Hello, my father in law is 84 yrs young and very stubborn.
He lives on his own (widower) in a large bungalow.

Unable to walk without a stick, but he won't accept any help.
Not coping with everyday tasks at all.

If anyone can offer any help and advice on this situation, I would be most grateful.

Re: Stubborn father in law.

Hello Stef - not a lot you can do with a stubborn relative gal, you can talk till yer blue in the face. He may come round to your way of thinking - eventually.
You will get some advice here I'm sure - all the best

Re: Stubborn father in law.

Thank's Patsy.

Re: Stubborn father in law.

Could you suggest a 'lady what does' to him?
I'm sure he'd be put off saying 'home help' - but a lady vacuuming and polishing for him might appeal. His independence is important to him, as it is to most of us.
We managed to chat my mum into employing a lady - she got used to her and in fact they enjoyed each others company.
Good luck.

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He is a Yorkshire man and very tight with his money!

Good idea though, I will try this and see what reaction i get. I would do it myself, but we do not get along very well, he upsets me frequently with his biased ideas about a Woman's place in the world.

Re: Stubborn father in law.

If you can afford it how about offering as a present to pay for someone to clean for him or to provide him hot meals or whatever he needs. It can be difficult doing it yourself if the relationship isn't very good but would he accept it as a present ?

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It is difficult because he has a very large dog, he has not trained it properly so it barks and jumps at anyone coming into his home. I will talk to my hubby about your suggestion, thank you.

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How about offering to walk the dog while the cleaning takes place he might be finding walking a large untrained dog difficult and you could do a bit of training while you walk.

Re: Stubborn father in law.

I am terrified of the dog, my hubby gets on ok with it, he is due to retire soon so perhaps I could help in the house whilst he takes the dog out.

Shall have to keep myself from arguing with his dad though.

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Treat it like a job if you had a client you were cleaning for you would ignore all jibes and just get on professionally. I have found over the years that works quite well.