Moving home yea or nay.

I'm still recuperating after the two heart attacks and have been staying with my son for the last 6 days since leaving hospital.

I'm being taken to my ex wife's house tomorrow as my family have planned I'm staying there for a week. I suppose its an endurance test really.
The week after I have been told that I'm going to be put at my daughters for a week.

I really appreciate what they are doing as I'm so sore and unbelievably tired all the time. Find it difficult to do even the simplest thing at the moment. But this will get better over time.

The thing that's worrying me is that I have to admit I haven't been looking after myself properly for a while and they are saying I should go and live in like a retirement type home where I would have a small studio apartment where I would be watched over more and also nearer to my family.

I like my little bungalow and the town where I live. The hospital that looked after me with the specialist cardiac unit is nearby 10.5 mls.
I realise they are saying its too far to visit me, 25 miles one way. But I'm not really sure I want to move. I'm 62. I don't want to be slotted away in some retirement home. I'm not even allowed to retire till I'm 68.

I do get lonely but that's my fault for hiding myself away.
But I also enjoy my personal freedom.

Do you think I should do what my family want or should I try to get back to my bungalow.

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MC, I think its far too soon for you or your family to be thinking about your long term care and living arrangements

Right now its not ideal to be shunted around, but you know yourself that its needed so you can recuperate and get the care you need right now

But those care needs will change moving on

As you say, you are still a relatively young man, not ready to be tucked away in a retirement home, nor do you think that going forwards you will need the care that comes with one of those packages

I would say hold on. Don't decide on something so drastic so soon. Its only days since you were at deaths door

Take the next few weeks to rest and heal. Promise your family that you will consider a move if you find you aren't coping alone

Are you getting a rehab package ? This is something that you can talk through with your therapists and nurse practitioners , or your GP

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I agree with this in bold.

Sorry to hear you are/have been ill. I hope you recover well. You need to keep calm and not get stressed.

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I'm half thinking about downsizing and getting a flat, i've been surfing and saw a 2bed appartment in a over 55s complex, it had a couple of big rooms if you wanted to mix with the other residents. £90k, about average for the area. What put me off was,a service charge of £550 per month.

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Excellent advice

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You know already what you have decided don't you? Find out what this package is go home and get people to come in and watch your progress especially the doctors nurses etc.?

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Hi

Life changes.

I am downsizing to a small house in a Market Town with a Bus Service and a Train Station.

I have looked at Over 55's accommodation, but as you say the Service Charges are horrendous.

It is not for me.

I value my independence, a much smaller house, everything in walking distance

Live in Tenants, the Rent a Room Scheme, £7,000 a year Tax Free.

They do the heavy work, taking the bins out,mowing the lawns, when I cannot drive, they do the shopping,

They are only here 6 Months a year, but it works for me.

It pays for my cleaner, Zac's sister, Sabrina.

I am getting better, time to travel again.

First job, off to see Guy in Taiwan in July, Terracotta Army, a trip to the Philippines, the Coral Farms, home via Thailand.

We will split up then, both back home.

Aspirational?

Yes, but you have to look forward, not backwards.

Life is for living.

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Good plan Swims, credit to you..

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Hi

Thanks for that Barry.

I was born with nothing, my Dad at that time was a Fitters Mate at ICI.

I have no trade skills at all, I was lucky in that I have Brain Skills.

My neighbours are appalled.

You are moving to a rough area.

Nope I am not, I am moving to an area where people genuinely work hard to earn a living.

Not an Estate Agent or Solicitor in sight.

I am happy with that.

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If it were me I'd opt for a studio apartment near my family. You say yourself that you haven't been looking after yourself.
You'd still have your independence and your own space. If you don't want to mix with the other occupiers you don't have to. You can stay in your apartment and come & go as you please.

Of course you should wait until you've recuperated before making any decisions. It will all depend on how well you feel.