Oh Brother !!

Hi everyone, I’d like to share this with you.

I know I shouldn’t but I am still chuckling after talking to my younger brother on the phone. I am now sitting here wondering why and how one of the nicest, kindest people on this earth has suddenly turned out to be sounding so callous!

He was such a heart-stealer when he was younger and married a beautiful girl when they were both just aged 17 and 18, They had two children and were blissfully happy for over 40 years until sadly he lost her to the dreaded C over 2 years ago.
It has taken this long for him to come to terms with it, she was his only love and absolute soulmate as others whom have gone through the same grief will know.

Now I am not biased but my younger brother, aged 62, is still a really good looking man, retired, slim. smart, independent means,usually so kind and considerate, believes in a lady acting like a lady and being treated like a lady, owns a mercedes coupe which stays in his garage as he prefers to drive around in his old van with room for his two much loved English Mastiffs.

Just around November, his daughter, on a visit to him, said to him,” Dad, Mum wouldn’t want you to be sitting around being unhappy. Why don’t you join a local area dating agency and start socialising again. It doesn’t have to be for romance, just perhaps friendships so that you can have someone to dine out with, go to the theatre or cinema, someone you can invite to your summer barbeques or maybe just share a bottle of wine and watch a film together”.
Well as you can imagine, this went down like a lead balloon at first but after a lot of persuasion and cajoling he finally consented to joining a local area dating agency. His daughter and grand-daughter entered all his information and as would have it, he was inundated with requests to meet up for coffee or dinner. The girls insisted that it be for coffee only and to ensure he got an up to date photo of the lady (which they of course vetted first)

Well, he went on his first coffee date in December and as all of this family waited with bated breath (as I am sure the poor lady’s family did also) he returned with the words “Never again, it was like sitting with Mum, and that photo was a lie, it must have been twenty years old !!)

OH OH! we thought, we’ll never get him to socialise if he gives up after the first date, so we kept on at him to keep looking, which he eventually did and in the end with much gusto as he learned what to look for, He still has disastrous dates but has us in stitches when he regales us with stories of their looks, their mannerisms, their boldness, their weight issues, anything and everything. He sounds so cruel when he puts them down and my heart goes out to them because I am sure they are lovely, lonely people full of hope too, Trouble is he is probably looking for someone as beautiful as my late SIL, probably as slim as she was with her personality to boot. Unfortunately he will never find her because she doesn’t exist.
Each woman rightly has their own persona and he will eventually get it.
I wonder what they say about him!!

I secretly think he still holds out hope of meeting that special someone though even though he acts very blaise about it all on the phone.. He has in fact been talking on the phone every day for the last couple of weeks to this one lady and seems very keen on meeting her for their first coffee date this Wednesday. None of us are saying much as we don’t want to put a hex on things but we are keeping our fingers and toes crossed.

Hope you didn’t mind me sharing my thoughts with you.

Re: Oh Brother !!

It`s not easy-been there. Nobody is second best but sometimes both parties may think so,if one party has been divorced that too raises questions.

My view? follow your heart but listen to your head.

Re: Oh Brother !!

Hi OG, yes, you're quite correct, no-one is indeed second best but it must seem like it when one of the party is so disappointed when they meet for the first time.
One of his dates was an evening meeting in a country Inn, The lady got out of the taxi and my brother said he wanted to sink under the floor when he saw her. She wasn't unattractive but the photo she had posted must have been taken years previously because she was at least 4 stone heavier and she looked awful. He said that he was only drinking a glass of coke as he was driving and she ordered a glass of diet coke. He tried to make conversation but when someone he knew walked in and said Hi as he glanced at this huge lady he was sitting with, he said he was willing her to finish her drink so they could call it a night. but no, she then decided to order a glass of wine and he said his heart sank.
When she had finished her drink she kindly asked him if he would like another drink but he quickly gave his apologies and made an excuse about having to walk the dogs.
So sad but that is the pitfall of dating on dating sites.

I really don't think I could ever go through this.....

Re: Oh Brother !!

Be honest on a dating site-why fib??? You will get found out

Re: Oh Brother !!

Poor chap, the lonely can be as sitting target for the unscrupulous .

A shocking thing happened to someone I know, I won't go into detail other than to say she was used

Re: Oh Brother !!

Poor chap, the lonely can be as sitting target for the unscrupulous .

A shocking thing happened to someone I know, I won't go into detail other than to say she was used and dumped in favour of a better option